One day, while at the gym, I made eye contact with someone else who was also working out.  A little while later, as I was working on my resistance exercises, he came towards me shaking his head. ‘No, not like that, let me show you.’ he said.
From one look at his physique, it was clear that he had been spending a lot more time in the gym than I have over the past few years, so I was willing to take his advice. After he corrected my technique, I could instantly feel the difference. The way I had been doing it before was totally ineffective, and I was possibly even risking injuring myself.
‘How long will you be in the gym?’ he asked me. ‘Probably about another 30 minutes.’ ‘OK I’ll come and show you some other exercises a bit later.’ He said. Then he left me to it, and got back to his own routine.
At this point I was thinking, wow, I’m so grateful he came over. It takes courage and confidence to walk up to a complete stranger and tell them they’re doing something wrong. I was also slightly surprised by my reaction to him. I’m a bit sensitive on the subject of my body, and it occurred to me that I could have easily reacted defensively, but there was something very disarming in his approach. From the outset his genuine and sincere desire to help was so obvious he completely bypassed any defensiveness I might have had towards him.
I also thought, I wonder if he’s a personal trainer. It would be great to have someone like that helping me with my workout.
As good as his word, he returned a bit later on. ‘What’s your name?’ he asked. ‘Bernie’ I replied. ‘What’s yours?’ ‘Famous’ he replied. I’m not kidding, and neither was he. His name really is Famous.
Now a name like ‘Famous’ isn’t one that you forget easily, and I realised I had seen his name on the class timetable. ‘Oh, you teach Tae-Bo here don’t you?’
So he showed me another exercise or two, and as he did he asked me a couple of questions. ‘How long have you been coming here?’ he asked.

‘Not long’ I replied. He said, ‘The most important thing is to stick with it. Rome wasn’t built in a day.’
And then once again, he left me to it.
Now more than the dialogue, what I most want to convey to you is how I was feeling during these exchanges. At this point I was feeling grateful, inspired, motivated, encouraged, and best of all I was really enjoying my workout.
Famous’ enthusiasm had rubbed off on me, and I wanted more! ‘When do you teach your Tae-Bo classes?’ I asked him as I moved onto the treadmill. He told me the times, and I said, ‘OK, I’ll be there on Wednesday.’
During the next 20 minutes on the treadmill, I realised that Famous was naturally doing what all ‘Client Magnets’ do.
I doubt that he had marketing on his mind as he came to the gym to do his own workout. It’s unlikely that he had a goal to recruit a certain number of people for his class. And yet just by being himself, and sharing his knowledge and expertise with someone who needed it, he did indeed recruit a new member for his class.
Now, some people may say that this is just a trivial story about aerobics classes, and might wonder why I am spending so much time on it.

What’s it got to do with business?
Answer: everything.
My point is this. Every day you have hundreds of opportunities to see this type of magnetism at work. Do you notice them? Do you learn from them? You are surrounded by people who are attracting clients this naturally, with this degree of ease and effortlessness. Start to pay attention and see what lessons you can draw from the examples that surround you.
And in the meantime, I’ve drawn some lessons from this Famous example that we can all learn from. So, in a nutshell, I give you ‘The Famous Way to Becoming A Client Magnet’.

1. Spot a need. He saw me making a mistake and was willing to help me correct it. He isn’t standing in the local shopping centre accosting passers by and saying, let me show you some press ups! The fact that I was in the gym indicated both my need and my want.
2. Have confidence and belief in the value you can provide. He didn’t agonise over whether to approach me or not. His lack of self-consciousness totally disarmed me. He knew that I would benefit from him correcting my mistakes, which transmitted to me as confidence rather than arrogance.
3. Be the example of what you are offering. I could tell just by looking at him, and also watching him doing his own routine that he knew what he was talking about, and therefore I was willing to accept his advice.
4. Share your expertise in a way that adds value to the people who need it. He showed me a couple of techniques, but more than that he inspired me, encouraged me and uplif ted me. His belief in my potential was very compelling.
5. Give freely, with no expectation of return. His body language and timing communicated that he wan ted nothing from me in return. He was just happy to share his expertise.
6. Have no attachment to results. I doubt that he had marketing on his mind as he came to the gym to do his own workout. It’s unlikely that he had a goal to recruit a certain number of people for his class. If I had sensed that was his motive, I would have been less receptive.
7. Make a series of short, low key contacts, adding value each time. When he did approach me, he showed me one thing and moved on. I was glad he ‘gave me my space’. If he had hi-jacked my whole workout, then I would have been resistant.
8. Let people ‘sample’ YOU. Through our interactions, I’d also had a chance to sample something that couldn’t possibly be conveyed on a brochure or flyer. He was inspiring and motivating and most of all he believes in my potential. That’s the real reason I’m going to his class. The fact that he’s teaching Tae-Bo is secondary.
9. Let the buyer progress through the buying process in their own time. He didn’t ask me to come to his class, I asked him about the class. If I hadn’t recognised his name from the class timetable, I almost certainly would have asked him about personal training.
10. Don’t force or manipulate the process. I at any stage I had sensed that he had an agenda, my barriers would have come up. What I really sensed from him was his desire for me to succeed.
11. Be available. He was getting on with his own workout, yet I saw him help a number of people. He was available to answer my questions about his classes when I asked.
12. Have a ‘next step’ for the buyer to take, for their sake and yours. He has a class that I can attend. It would be a shame if he was just a ‘gym-angel’ who helps people and then disappears! That would be disappointing for everyone. Notice how I wanted more!
13. Package your services into a tangible form that is easy to buy. Have a clear offer. It was easy for me to make a decision about coming to his class. I knew the times, the price and what I’d be getting in return for my fee.
14. Commit to your clients. As I was saying good-bye he said, ‘OK I’m going to hold you to that. If I don’t see you in my class on Wednesday, I’ll be asking you about it next time I see you in the gym.’ Did I feel pressured? No. I was delighted!
15. Enjoy yourself! This guy was just having a good time in the gym.
16. And know that you are most irresistible when you are just being yourself. Famous was just doing his thing, and doing what came naturally. He wasn’t thinking about marketing and selling at all!

38 Responses to “The Famous Way to Becoming A Client Magnet”

  • That’s a great story Bernadette, and you’ve illustrated the marketing methods beautifully! Thank you – I really enjoyed it.

    On a non-marketing note… I wonder if Famous is from Zimbabwe? I knew a gym trainer called Scissors when I lived in Zim! I was told that often Shona babies are given their names according to what was happening/around them at the time of their birth. I also knew a BigBoy and the mind boggles as to what was going on when he was born if this is true! ‘Nuff said, I think!

    Commenting on the marketing messages, I think you are spot on. The messages are very much based on principles of attraction…Being clear and committed to what you want but being unattached to the outcome and taking consistent action. This has been my primary way of marketing for years, and like Famous, I wasn’t doing it consciously until I “learnt” more about marketing (particularly from you!). And not doing it consciously points to the importance of doing what you love.

  • Amish:

    Hi ,

    I just enjoyed the entire post. It was awesome. I really like the way you have abstract the key points & relate to Business. Its just amazing.

    Thanks for the greatly insightful post. :)

    Thanks,

    Amish

  • Thank you for sharing. I like how Famous wasn’t trying to market, he was just doing what he loves and is good at. What a simple concept. It reminds me of what Fred Rogers said about successful people.
    “The thing I remember best about successful people I’ve met all through the years is their obvious delight in what they’re doing… and it seems to have very little to do with worldly success. They just love what they’re doing, and they love it in front of others. ”
    I am going to remember to keep the fun in simplicity in my business endeavors, after all, that is what attracts people. None of us like to feel like we are being sold to.

  • The interesting thing here is that it’s all commonsense. Stuff that if we really took the time to think about, we (business owners) would all do. Reading this post made me think why did I do a three year marketing degree. I should have spent the time in gentle contemplation about how I will attract and retain Clients when I start a business. Oh well, my three uni years were fun to say the least! Thanks Bernadette for this inspiring, simple, commonsense advice. I’m now going to Tweet about it!

  • Loved this post Bernadette!

    Really awesome way you told the story and pulled out the points. Of course we all want to see a photo now : )

    Well, I do ; )

    Thank you and good luck with your training!

    Karen x

  • Eoin:

    Bernie

    yuor post was very timely for me. As someone about to launch into the speaking world proper in September I needed to read this to remind me of what is important and why i am doing this. Thank you.

  • Great blog post! I love these type of visual examples in another environment – always makes it so much easier to relate and understand. You are a great story teller :)

    /Malin

  • Great Post Bernie,

    I always enjoy your post’s and your Tweets. Keep up the good work! When it’s time…we’ll talk business and see if you can correct my form.

    Keep Believing,

    Bille Baty

  • Great Bernadette

    I have to say that I have been trying to do just that but I realise now from reading your article that I have perhaps just pushed a bit too hard. I also used to wonder why I gave away all my free advice but as they say – you only get out what you put in.
    You always cheer me up and get me motivated. Thanks. Kristina

  • Thank you so much for a great post, Bernadette. We never know where we will have a teachable moment. Looking forward to DC.

  • Bernie:

    How fabulous that you were AWAKE. You had an experience and had the EXPERIENCE of the EXPERIENCE while you did it. Marvelous. The only way we can share our lives is to first notice the lessons in them. This practice of openness, awareness, and generosity also attracts friends, lovers, and spouses I have noticed. So. Be careful. :D

    Thank you SO much for having your antenna up for us and sharing your insight.

    Steve McCurdy

  • Great natural story, I was also amzed at how people had responded on July 30th a “day in advance”, then It dawned on me that that you Bernie, have clients all over the world and that this website is live! Keep up the good work.

  • Thank you Bernadette for such a great comment. You never know when you will encounter a teachable moment. Looking forward to meeting you in DC.

    Best,

    Nancy Knettell
    The Shyness Queen!

  • Bernadette this was a clear and concise post. I like the way you lead into the points by using your personal experience at the gym. That drew me in and allowed me to identify with the points better. Thank you for sharing

  • Efe:

    Wow!

    This is a really Interesting Piece.
    I totally agree with the Point 16.
    You are irresistable when you
    are yourself; that’s one sure way
    of being a client Magnet.

    I really do enjoy opening
    your mails Bernadette.

    Thank You & Keep It Up!

  • Far and away the best blog you’ve written yet and the others have been very good.
    The third party story (esp with a name like Famous) will stick in the mind as will the sense that the approach represents. Thank you.

    Shaun

  • John E Regan:

    They say when the student is ready the teacher will appear. How easy it would have been to dismiss ‘Famous’ as just another come on. Instead you surmised by the way he looked and sounded that he was genuinly interested in helping you. His offer was rewarded by gaining another student to his classes. You were both on the same wavelength, both in the Gym fro a reason and so there was a location connection. the law of attraction is always working and here was a great example of resonance. Great Bernie.

  • Dave Austin:

    Hi Bernadette.

    What a great story. It just goes to show what you can achieve by being natural.

    Dave

  • Bryan:

    Wow!!

    Haha I’m exactly like that guy and I didn’t even realise it! :-)

    I end up in the gym an hour or two after I finish ‘work’ helping people and doing programmes that I could easily reschedule.

    Pat on the back for me ;-)

    thanks or that Bernadette

    at least I’m doing something right!

    B

  • Peter:

    Thanks Bernadette
    I too liked the way you used a story from your ‘everyday life’ and drew several significant learnings that we can apply to our own personal and working lives. That’s a lesson in itself!
    Thanks.

  • Hi Bernadette
    I like your analogy to the marketing world. This is a great example of how attraction marketing work in the real world. And also how it is important to surround yourself with your target market.
    Thanks for sharing

    Peder Andersen
    pederandersen.com

  • Great post – I loved the way you took a simple encounter and turned it into a business lesson. Great insight!

    While your 16 points are of great value, my big take away from this post is to be more aware of the lessons present in my everyday encounters.

    Thanks!
    Always Grateful,
    AndreaC

  • Wow, Bernadette… great advice and very well stated! Thanks for passing this along…
    Warm Wishes,
    Ricky Powell

  • Helen Bark:

    Bernadette.
    Brilliant–a gentle powerful metapor.

  • Hi! What a great lesson that we can apply right now no matter our field of expertise. Also it’s a great way to make you stand out from the crowd just yelling “buy, buy, buy!”.

    Great to hear that more people are getting into softer ways of selling.

    Claudia Juarez

  • Hi Bernadette,

    first time in contacting you.

    Great story and yes, it really helps when describing it like this. Very clear and it feels comfortable (this approach- stops you from thinking about ‘selling’); especially the part where it says just to be yourself- isn’t that just all we want to be anyway? Great that we can and be prosperous in our businesses and helping people :-)

    Thanks,

    Nicole

  • Ab Fab. I love the site and the article. I love all the stuff you do, and when I wanted to model someone whom I respect in this business and who works with integrity and skill and knowledge and is also a great person – I chose you. My new website is being built as we speak and my new business was launched because of you and the 3 day workshop in Belfast, you changed my life. Thank you.

  • Hi Bernadette,

    Great article. It reminded me how enrolling I am when people meet me in person and how I can just take what I do ‘live’ and incorporate that into my sales copy and marketing.

    Blessings,

    Kim

  • Thank you so much for this.
    these 16 tips are really helpful.
    I picked two to start with so i can experience some success quickly. the i’ll start picking away at the rest.
    drjimsellner,PhD.,DipC.

  • Thanks Bernadette!

    As a marriage coach, it would be easy for me to get so focused on building my business and trying to help others that I could allow my own marriage to suffer. I love this reminder to be yourself, enjoy what you do, and come from a spirit of wanting to help others. We can’t give away what we don’t have so we need to be intentional in remembering why we want to do what we do in the first place!

  • Great advice. Don’t we find ourselves in Famous’ place so many times and fail to take advantage? Thanks for the reminder.

  • Great article, Bernadette!

    The points that hit me were:

    7. Make a series of short, low key contacts, adding value each time. When he did approach me, he showed me one thing and moved on. I was glad he ‘gave me my space’. If he had hi-jacked my whole workout, then I would have been resistant.

    GREAT POINT! Enthusiasm can cause us to press needlessly!

    12. Have a ‘next step’ for the buyer to take, for their sake and yours. He has a class that I can attend. It would be a shame if he was just a ‘gym-angel’ who helps people and then disappears! That would be disappointing for everyone. Notice how I wanted more!

    I’ve been that gym-angel in some form way too long! I’ve almost finished getting my practices packaged so that others can benefit and participate!

    Thanks for this, dear Bernadette, you’re WONDERFUL~
    Randy Sandknop

  • Brilliant Bernadette. Thanks for sharing and for combining the great art of storytelling with practical tips for action.

    Best wishes
    Ian

  • Birgitte Melnick:

    Hi Bernadette,
    What a great story. Hope to see you soon.
    Besitos,
    Gitte

  • Love it – thanks for sharing this. I love how some powerful lessons can come out of simple life examples.

  • Good one. Thanks for sharing.

  • Hi Bernadette ~ Thanks for sharing your wisdom. You make it all so understandable and doable! I am sure many of us can relate, out there working on our outer self and inner self. :) Thanks again!

  • Hi Bernadette

    That marketing approach was focused like a lazer beam. I’ll tell you what, as soon as I read it I posted it to all my contacts on face book I was that inspiered. Then I thought; wow look at that, bernadette has just got me to tell a lot of people all about her service witout even asking me…

    So i wish you continued clarity success and profit

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